An unplanned pregnancy can leave both of you feeling overwhelmed and scared. There are a lot of decisions to make. Our culture tells us that “it’s her choice”, but any decision about the baby affects all of you. It is important to consider all the options. We have staff that can meet with you and your partner, at no cost, in a confidential and safe environment to discuss all the options, answer any questions or concerns you may have, and link you to resources within the community. You may have more options than you think!

We invite you to accompany your partner when she comes for her appointment.

Is She Pregnant?

Though it may not always feel like it, neither you or your partner are alone in this situation. The two of you can get through this, and she needs you now more than ever.  It’s vitally important that you provide her with the support she needs during this stressful time, both emotionally and physically. Below, you’ll find some tips on how to accomplish this, but if you are looking for some additional help, please give us a call today.

What To Do

First of all, it’s important to talk with her and listen to her. Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you at all times. Don’t close yourself off emotionally because this situation involves more than just you! More than anything, just be there for her.

With that said, you’ll also need to discuss these things with the people who care. In addition to keeping the lines of communication open between the two of you, you may want to talk to your parents and others who’ll be directly affected. Keeping this a secret will only add to the stress for both of you.

More than anything, you simply need to educate yourself. Collect information and seek advice from people you trust, all while being honest with her and yourself. Own and share at all times how you feel. You will be surprised at how much it will help her to know that you share the same concerns, and you will be surprised at what you learn about yourself. Plus, you’ll be proud that you’re standing tall together!

What Not To Do

There are three main things you’ll want to avoid as you and your partner navigate your unplanned pregnancy:

  • Don’t run from your responsibilities. The more you try to avoid this situation, the harder things will get for the three of you, both now and in the future.
  • Don’t pressure her to do what you want. You both need to work together at all times. You’re a team now!
  • Don’t stop communicating with her. Express your feelings and add your input whenever it’s needed.

You will never have this day again, so make it count.